Shame: The Hidden Struggle with Pat DeYoung

Patricia A. DeYoung, PhD has a Masters of Social Work and a PhD in Philosophy of Education from the University of Toronto. She is a Registered Clinical Social Worker in Ontario, Canada and has been a practitioner of psychotherapy since 1996. She was a founding faculty member of the Toronto Institute for Relational Psychotherapy, where she taught for 25 years. Dr. DeYoung has written three books: Relational Psychotherapy: A Primer; Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame: Healing Right Brain Relational Trauma; and Shame and Grace: Six Essays on Falling Apart and Becoming Whole Again.

Here Pat shares insights from her work as a relational psychotherapist and from her research on chronic shame. She discusses shame’s relationship to addiction, narcissism, and to the dysregulation in ourselves and in the culture writ large.

00:00:00 Introduction
00:02:42 What is relational psychotherapy?
00:07:22 The developing mind
00:15:38 Ethical shame and chronic shame
00:25:21 Nervous system dysregulation
00:34:58 Shame in the culture
00:43:31 Belonging and political discourse
00:49:17 Shame and narcissism
00:59:50 Shame and spirituality
01:04:17 Soothing the longing to belong
01:09:14 Taking shame out of the shadows

New Thinking Allowed Guest Host Leanne Whitney, PhD, is a depth psychologist and transformational coach based in Los Angeles, CA. She is the author of Consciousness in Jung and Patañjali and currently serves as Executive Director of Center for Transformation and Integration. Her website is https://leannewhitney.com/

To learn about Leanne Whitney’s upcoming Transformational Coaching Certification Course with an emphasis in Somatic Integration Therapy, please visit: https://transformationandintegration.com/courses

Producer: John Hartmann
Editor: John Hartmann

(Recorded on October 4, 2024)

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